What is the ettiquette rules surrounding a flower girl and who should buy the dress?

A girl I used to be really good friends with is getting married in Sept. She is my daughter's god mom. She wants my 4-year-old to be her flower girl, one of two. She expects me to fork out 120.00 for a dress. Who do you think should have to pay for it? The bride or the mother of the flower girl? The other flower girl is her cousin and her parents have lots of money. My husband and I do not and she knows that, but she expects me to buy the dress. Who is right and who is wrong?
What is the ettiquette rules surrounding a flower girl and who should buy the dress?
I would say if she isn't offering to pay then you should...if it is too expensive...then let her know...maybe she can pay half at least.
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i meant the bride supposed to get ur daughter the dress. i haven't heard such case...
Reply:Not aware there was etiquette.
Reply:The bride should buy the dress but it all depends on if you have money or not.
Reply:You buy the dress. If you can't afford it then you need to explain the situation to the bride and your daughter should not be in the wedding. It falls in the same category as bridesmaids. The bride doesn't pay for thier dresses nor does she pay for flower girls.
Reply:just go rent something or try a consignment shop for a little girl's dress that is in nice shape...I've seen beautiful formal dresses there---
Reply:You pay for it. When someone asks if you (or your daughter) will be in the wedding, and you agree, you automatically assume the monetary responsibility. If you can't afford to, just tell her that and don't have your daughter in the wedding.
Reply:NO WAY The bride does not pay for anyones clothing, she gets to pick what color and perhaps what style but she does not pay for the flower girl or the bridesmaids dresses. If the cheapskate parents do not want to pay the money then you get another flower girl or go with out one. The bride gets a nice little gift for each member of her wedding party, flower girl included and that is that. When people cannot afford the expense of what is required then they are required to politely back out of the position early enough for the bride to make other arrangements. That is the ettiquette surrounding that issue.
Reply:You should be the one paying for it. I've never known anyone who's paid for the dresses and tuxes of the wedding party. It's been the responsibility of the people in the wedding. Tell her you can't afford the dress and if she offers to pay then there you go. If not then your daughter just wont be in the wedding. If she is you daughters god mother then you must be really close. It shouldnt be hard to explain it to her.
Reply:The couple getting married should supply everything for the wedding party, if they have anything special in mind, like a new dress for the flower girl.



Low class for them to have you buy anything, they asked you to be in the wedding.
Reply:I believe that you and your husband are responsible for paying for the dress. If you are not able to pay 120 then you should talk with the bride and explain the circumstances. Then volunteer to possibly buy a similar dress but cheaper. I let my flowergirls mom pick out a white dress and then i bought fabric the same color of the bridesmaids dresses and made a sash for it. It looked perfect. $120 is a little steep for a childs dress.
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