Who should pay for the Bridesmaids dresses?
It is the bridesmaid's and groomsmen's job to pay for their own attire, but it is YOUR job to select attire that is affordable for everyone you have chosen to be in the wedding party.
If you've picked out a $400 bridesmaid dress, but when you think about it, your friends are really more of a $150 dress crowd, the situation is just not going to work out-- you're going to have to be more flexible with your expectations.
One way to slightly reduce their expenses is to let them wear their own dressy shoes that they already own, and accessories they already own. They do not have to be completely identical to each other.
Reply:They should pay for their own dresses, and the one person that can't afford to pay ask her how much can she pay and if you have the extra moneys then help her out. Their are also some places where you can rent bridesmaids dresses.
Reply:Bridesmaides pay there own! Its STRESSFUL ENOUGH to pay for the Reception in itself!
Reply:Usually the bridesmaids pay for their own dresses.
Or you can offer to pay the amount over 100.00 or just pay half. It's up to you.
I offered my bridesmaid the amount over 160.00 because I had them pick out the dresses themselves, (with my final approval of course) I just picked out the color of course. After all they are buying the dresses, they have to wear them and they are stuck with them in their closet. They don't feel it's a total loss to them if they get to pick out the dress because they can pick something out that they can wear to future events and are less likely to complain.
Good luck and congrats.
Reply:It is the bridesmaids' responsibility to pay for their dresses...the same goes for the groomsmens' rentals. The parents of the flower girls are responsible for their dress purchase.
Now, if you have someone come to you and mention that her financial status is a little tight...that is when you offer to pay for her. However, if that does happen, make sure it isn't broadcast within the bridesmaids, etc as that could have the potential to cause problems.
Don't pay for them from the beginning, unless you want their dresses and tuxes to be their gifts, instead of jewelry or a flask...if you don't have an unlimited budget, then don't go overboard:
Dresses for 5 bridesmaids = 150*5 = 750
Tuxedo rentals for 5 groomsmen = 100*5 = 500
Dresses for 2 flower girls = 100*2 = 200
Gifts for everyone = 100*12 = 1,200
Total cost = 2,650
Granted that is only an estimate, but that money can be better spent on upgraded chairs for the reception...think long and hard about what you do.
Reply:For my wedding i am offering to pay for either half of my bridesmaids dresses or for their hair and make-up to be done. we are having a fairly small wedding. most bridesmadis pay for there own, but if you find dresses that arent too expensive and it fits into your budget its a nice way of saying thanks for being in my weding.
Reply:i've heard that the bride pays for the maid of honors dress, but the bridesmaids pays for there own. but that is just what i've heard and that is what i'm doing for my wedding. but my maid of honor really cant afford her dress.
Reply:I have been in 3 weddings.. I have had to PAY for all my dresses and only once was I actually asked what I want to wear.
Part of agreeing to be a part of the wedding is paying for your dress.. its your responsibility to get them a thank you gift for being in it.
If however you know someone cant afford it and needs help maybe you can offer to pay for it as their present, but I would keep this hushed and a deal between you and the person that is having a hard time. I just asked my roommate and he agrees.. neither of us female or male has gotten their outfit paid for.. we have always had to pay..
I say make them pay and wait for them to tell if they cant before you even think about offering..
Reply:The bridesmaids are supposed to pay for their own dresses, and you're supposed to take their financial situations into account when choosing the bridesmaids dresses. Perhaps you should find a similiar dress that is more affordable.
Reply:Well....I've been in FIVE weddings and I've paid for all five bridesmaid dresses myself. When I got married, my bridesmaids paid for their own as well. Mind you all five of my bridesmaids where the girls of all the five weddings I was in, so I figured it was only fair!!
Reply:I didn't have a big wedding so I can only talk as a bridesmaid. I usually paid for the dress and shoes myself. If the bride is truly worried she may not want to wait until the last minute. Soemone might not be able to pay 200 or 300 hundred for a dress they will never wear again. Keep it simple and elegant. Make sure the shop has layaway. that way they can pay smaller amounts of money over time then all at once. In the end does it really matter? It is going to be your day. Go be a blushing Bride and bless you
Reply:they should pay, if the one has an issue financially why not bring her to the side and the 3 of you talk it out, maybe y'all can put up half and she pay half
Reply:Strange...I've been in five weddings as a bridesmaid or maid of honor and I have ALWAYS had to pay for my own dress...work it out with your girls now...same goes for all of the wedding attendants including flower girls...never heard of anyone but an extremely wealthy family offering to pay for the attendant's outfits.
Reply:You probably know that the bridesmaids are sopose to pay for there dresses but if financially they can't do it then you will have to figure out some ways around it
My sugestion
Look for dresses that are on the clearence rack out of season it;s seems like girls are wearing any color it doesn't matter the season
Try going to Macys or Jcpenny and look for dresses in the same color but different dresses. That way you can get a selection of dresses on sale
Maybe for those that don't have the money you can pay for half.
Reply:The bridesmaid should. It is custom that they do so. have never heard of a bride being responsible for buying them
Reply:In my wedding and in all of the weddings I have been in the bridesmaids bought their own dresses and the groomsmen rented their own tuxes and the parents of the flower girl bought the flower girl dress. If money is an issue, try to find fairly cheap bridesmaids dresses that they can afford, you can find nice dresses that don't cost an arm and a leg. Chadwicks has some nice ones. I wouldn't offer to help them out but if one comes to you and tells you that they can't afford the dress then offer to help them out. They should know they are supposed to buy their own dresses and rent their own tuxedos and they should have plenty of time between now and the wedding to save their money to do so.
Reply:They pay for their dresses themselves. You could buy the accessories for hair and neck in bulk and ask for a contribution though...especially if you want all to look uniform.
Reply:the bridesmaids pay for all their dresses and groomsmen pay for their tuxes.
Reply:The bridesmaids pay for there own dresses. Just be considerate and pick out an affordable dress. You can get bridesmaids dresses for like $50 or less at David's Bridal.
Reply:In my experience the bridesmaids are responsible for their dress and shoes. However if you are asking that they all get their hair done at the same place, have the same accessories ect. Iin the weddings i've been in the bride covers this. If a bridesmaid is going to have trouble paying for it you could offer to go in for part of the dress, or you could tell her the style number ect and she might be able to buy a used one off e-bay. Also you might want to remind them that if they sell them after the wedding they could get a portion of their money back. (The price may not seem so bad if you know that you'll get some of it back )
Reply:find some cheaper dressess...or if you find something you really love have them pay what they can and then you can pay the difference...typically the bridesmaids pay for their own dresses but i think it's wonderful that you want to help...maybe you could make that their bridesmaid's gift too instead of getting them some other things too
Reply:At my best friend's wedding (haha, like the movie), she sent us links to dresses with the colors she wanted and let us pick out the dress we wanted to wear. It was actually great. We each paid for our own and luckily it was only $80! Beautiful dresses, too.
:) If you are gonna have the girls pay for it (wise, b/c darn weddings are mad expensive), let them pick out the dress/price range. Cause I have one friend who wanted me to be a bridesmaid and the dresses she wanted us to wear were $300!!! and I said, sorry, i can't be in your wedding. LOL.
Reply:Normally, the bridesmaids pay for their own gowns - as do the groomsmen, flower girl, ring bearer, etc.
When it comes to picking the dresses - it is possible to pick dresses that are not overly expensive. The last wedding I was in, the gowns were beautiful satin gowns that we each paid $75 for! We got them at a department store during Prom season so they had a good selection of formal gowns. My own bridesmaids got their dresses at a small boutique in the mall that specialized in trendy casual wear and only carried a few dress styles - they each paid $49!
If you have your heart set on a more expensive style and you think it may be a problem for the girls, consider helping with part of it instead of all of it.
Reply:I had an experience once where I was asked (and totally thrilled) to be a maid of honor. HOWEVER, the dresses that the bride chose were close to $200 PLUS shoes, etc. I was in the middle of putting myself through school, had a carpayment, insurance, etc and at that price, there was no way I could afford it.
Needless to say, I was not able to do it....and the bride never even came back and offered to help and/or offer any alternatives to me...I figured that it just wasn't that important for her to have me in it...and I never heard another word from her.
I thought that was pretty rude, to be honest.
I don't think any bridal party member would expect you to pick up any costs for them, HOWEVER, if you run into someone who just explains to you that are really strapped for money, then maybe offer to help them in some way or another. It could be paying for her dress.....or her shoes...or her hair.....or even just offering another alternative to a dress that is lower in cost and in her price range. But to ignore her and let her go completely is pretty rude, I think.
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